how to get a divorce


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What You Should Know When Filing for a Divorce

Filing for a divorce can be a complex process and can entail various aspects, like whether it is contested or uncontested, whether there are children or property to consider, and whether there are unresolved issues that need to be discussed thoroughly, among other things. The complexities surrounding these elements are the reason why most experts recommend that you retain an attorney, most especially if you are not up to dealing with the nuts and bolts of the process.

When you and your spouse have settled on getting a divorce, the first thing you should do before filing for a divorce is to have a consultation with a family law attorney. He will inform you of your legal rights and the legal issues that you need to contend with.

Filing for divorce entails one spouse submitting a petition for divorce or a petition for the dissolution of marriage. This document contains the legal grounds for the divorce that justify the request and the evidence of these legal grounds. While the acceptable legal grounds may differ from state to state, most states have no-fault grounds for divorce. This means that filing for divorce does not require one party to put the blame on the other to justify the dissolution of the union.


You have different options in filing for a divorce. These can include one or more of the following:

  • You can contact a lawyer for legal advice. There are many attorneys who ask reasonable fees for initial consultations.

  • You can do the divorce yourself. If you decide to take the case on by yourself, be sure to be informed of the guidelines that go with it.

  • You can get in touch with a paralegal to prepare the necessary documents, but not necessarily provide with legal advice on your rights.


Depending on the documents you file with the clerk's office, the fees involved in filing for a divorce will differ. You can obtain a copy of the fee schedule so that you will have an idea on the possible fees you may incur while going through the divorce process.

Divorce Mediation

In filing for a divorce, you should also consider mediation. It refers to a voluntary process wherein somebody on neutral grounds, or a mediator, helps the divorcing parties come up with an agreement on the issues presented in their case. You should consider mediation if you have certain contested concerns regarding your divorce.

Mediation presents advantageous circumstances in that:

  • It helps the divorcing parties maintain control of the pace of the process.

  • It keeps the case a confidential matter and minimizes the involvement of courts.

  • The possible agreement that will be settled upon will reflect the needs and concerns of both parties.

  • Mediated settlements are more apt to produce results that are in compliance rather than court-imposed orders.

Divorce mediation costs depend on the mediator chosen to do the task, the gravity of the issues, the level of cooperation and the parties' capacity to pay.

"Divorce should always be the last recourse..."
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