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Benefiting from a Divorce Mediation

Being swept in the midst of an emotional disaster called divorce, thinking about the more mundane things associated with it, like paperwork, seems like an unattached idea that just hovers up in your head. While you can always get yourself legal assistance, what's confusing is that you may not be able to distinguish one from the other. Here are some things you need to be aware of so you will know why a divorce mediation  is right for you.

The Advantages of Divorce Mediation

  • Divorce mediation is less inexpensive. Meeting with a mediator can cost you from $1,000 to $5,000, while retainer fees for the two divorcing spouses can have an initial cost $1,500.

  • Through a divorce mediator, the separating spouses have control over the speed of the decisions that need to be dealt with, when the petition for divorce should be filed, and the terms of the divorce that will be placed in the marital settlement agreement. With divorce mediation, each of these steps are decided on agreeably by both parties.

  • Divorce mediation is also especially useful for people who prefer to do their own divorce as it frees them up from the task of preparing the necessary documents involved in divorce. A divorce mediator will be the one to prepare and file all the complex documents for those who want to represent themselves.

  • Using a divorce mediator to help you settle divorce issues can help you and your spouse communicate properly and make important decisions together peacefully and without sacrificing your future relationship with each other.

  • In private divorce mediation, all the discussions, agreements and resolutions are kept confidential. This condition can allow for a safe ground on which to propose or offer solutions for consideration. This situation can also help bring in new solutions that neither of the parties involved have thought of.

  • If you think you haven't settled on anything during the divorce mediation and that you are not satisfied with what is happening, you can always choose to hire another lawyer and go to court.

How effective is divorce mediation?

A study has said that when it comes to success rates, mediation yields positive results in 50% to 80% of cases. According to the study, couples who go through mediation processes to settle their divorce issues are more likely to be satisfied with the encounter they had, compared with couples who used the conventional way of adversarial divorce in dealing with divorce. And at final divorce, one study said that 69% of mediation respondents were somewhat to extremely satisfied, as compared to 47% of spouses who went through the adversarial way.

How to choose a divorce mediator

The first thing to look for is that the divorce mediator should be highly knowledgeable in family law, family counseling, child development and the process of mediation. Inquire about the number of mediation cases that the prospect has done in the past 2 to 3 years. Before deciding on one, make sure that the mediator has had extensive training and experience in at least ten cases.

"Divorce should always be the last recourse..."
Click here if you still want to save your marriage.